The Lonely Chapter

Feeling isolated, alone and uncertain is apart of the journey

There is a period in your journey that you will experience multiple times as you grow and develop in any realm that you so decide. It’s where you start to outgrow your old friends, but your skills/ personality aren’t up to the standard to find new friends.

You exist in this area where you feel like you’re an outcast and that you can’t relate to anyone. I’ve been through this and to some extent I still am. I am writing this to tell you that in fact, you aren’t alone. You have the one person with you that will help you through everything - Relationships, stress, pain and all of the shit that comes with developing into a better person. You are always with the person who will keep you company.

Who is that person?

It’s you.

I often speak about this concept of knowing what to do in all cases. I still believe it to be true. You can ask for advice, you can read this for advice, or you can watch a self-help video. Anything. But deep down if you give yourself enough time to think, your brain will naturally come to a conclusion to solve what is going on.

So what’s the message here?

My point is, that feeling lonely is okay. You are born alone and die alone. You walk around every day with yourself. Become comfortable with being alone. When you feel like you are isolated just keep fucking working. It is hard and trust me I know. But the people who are where you want to be have been through exactly what you are feeling. Dont alienate yourself and believe that your problems are unique because they’re not.

Once you become comfortable in who you are as a person, life becomes so much easier, you no longer conform to others and you know exactly where you are going and you begin to take charge of your own path in life. And every decision becomes completely yours, not what other people told you it should be.

“most people cheer for you until you start to remind them of what they gave up on, that’s then they start to resent you” - Layden

You will get through this!

Keep working hard, I’m in your corner!

-Layden